- Denial and isolation= This can’t be happening , This isn’thappening is often what people think. This is a defense mechanism for the overwhelmingfeelings you are having.
- Anger=This can be directed at objects, strangers, friends, family and sometimes at God.
- Bargaining =trying to regain control. If only we had got medical attention sooner, if only we had been a better person to them. .
- Depression=Two types of depression are associated with mourning. The first one is a reaction to practical implications relating to the loss. Sadness and regret predominate this type of depression.The second type of depression is more subtle and, in a sense, perhaps more private. It is our quiet preparation to separate and to bid our loved one farewell.
- Acceptance=some never reach this stage Death may be sudden and unexpected or we may never see beyond our anger or denial.
Often guilt is the most painful companion to death. People who are grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them. This is normal. Coping with loss is ultimately a deeply personal and singular experience. There is no right and wrong way. It is not she/he loved them more, she/he didn’t love them. Everyone is unique and the grief process is unique to each individual. Some may mark the loved ones birthday every year with celebration. While others prefer to not because this day is painful. Some people include others into the grief process while others decide not to. Some talk and talk while others are very quiet because just the thought makes them hurt. Let the person decide when or if they ever want to talk about it. Give them a card to let them know you are thinking of them.