I believe when you stand before god and say ” I take you to be my husband to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and obey, till death part us, according to god’s law”
. You are promising to do as follows and I seem to forget this for a few weeks. So my journey at first will be.
Make my spouse’s life better than it was before, as Proverbs 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
I will try and make sure his home is where he finds peace, and happiness. greet him at the door, always be happy to see him, go for walks every day, give lots of physical affection every day , and don’t hold grudges.
I need to look attractive for him but focus more on inner beauty. Verse 22 does say, “She is clothed in fine linen and purple.”
To make him or cause your spouse to be respected. Verse 23 says, “Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.” I can do this by not mentioning his faults and give him only praise.
I need to be a confident woman. Verse 25 says, “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”
Cause your children and spouse to respect you. Verse 28 and 29 say, “Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her (not have a temper)’ Those that know me knows this will be hard one for me, when I get hurt I lash out.
Pray daily that you would show nothing but Honor and respect for him.
Learn patience and self control.
1 peter 3: 1-7 the submission of the wife is required even if the husband is “disobedient to the word (take on a child like mentality). A woman who chooses a lifestyle of continued reverence and submission towards her husband, is a more happier woman. Her life is more successful.
1 Corinthians 13:7 says, “it (love) always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
1, Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives. Verse 5 states , For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands.
This is a public promise to myself and God.