I’ve seen a lot of posts by people who don’t want to wear certain types of clothing, because their scars will be visible. They worry that people will stare at them, or ask questions, or make rude comments, and this saddens me. I have always believed that it is not the looks of a person that matters but what is inside the person. I was lucky enough to have been raised in part by my grandmother a woman of the holiness faith.and was raised to believe you are beautiful the way you are.
My birth defect I never realized I had until I was diagnosed at age 45. I always knew I looked different that I could not have cleavage but never really knew why and it never bothered me. I have a condition called Pectus carinatum, I have a mild form it is also called pigeon chest, is a deformity of the chest characterized by a protrusion of the sternum and ribs. The mayo clinic states it is an uncommon birth defect in which a child’s breastbone protrudes outward abnormally. Sometimes the deformity isn’t noticeable until after the adolescent growth spurt. This was not as noticeable when I was a DD but after weight loss and barely a B cup this is really noticeable but I believe that the older crowd needs to show the younger generation that birth defects are not the end of the world and if people do not think you are beautiful then they do not belong in your life.
I also carry a huge scar on my right shoulder I have never tried to cover this and never thought about how I looked I believe that scars are never “ugly”, in my opinion. They are beautiful, because they tell a story of the trials we have faced. Whether it is a scratch from a childhood fall or a mark from a scalpel, it is your battle wound to wear with pride, so wear it.
I also realized that after weight loss I look old now this bothers me. I started to wonder why with all my imperfections why does looking old bother me is it the medias view of old or my personal view I took this photo and when I saw it I said no I can’t use that I look old and my 19 year old said you are old. LOL. To him I am over the hill. I decided to share this because I have decided if I look this way in the photo I look this way to people. I can deal with this.
So this post is about liking the way god made you and realize everyone is unique and beautiful and no I do not have a big head but I do not have low self-esteem either. So if your teenager is dealing with birth defects and there looks let them know not all people notice In my life I have only been asked twice why my chest looks the way it does and I am age 45. Not everyone notice or says the notice.