Domestic Violence


I recently read parts of a great book it is called Invincible The 10 Lies you learn Glowing up with Domestic Violence and the truths to set you free Written by Brian F martin

Here is some paragraphs from the book.

“I asked a few questions that had been on my mind for a long time: How do people who’ve grown up living with domestic violence feel? What do they believe about themselves? What feelings do they experience most frequently? The group put forward a number of ideas but the words most often used were guilty, resentful, sad, alone, angry, hopeless, worthless, fearful, self-conscious, and unloved. These are, in fact, the ten lies you learn growing up with domestic violence—lies that you can unlearn after you uncover the truths.” (Brian F martin)

“Yes, change can be automatic. For some it may not; but one thing that can happen immediately is awareness. More than 80 percent of change is awareness! That awareness leads to progress, and daily progress leads to living the life that was meant for you the one that was stolen from you as a child. Changing the story  of our lives can take time or it can happen in an instant, but progress is happening right now. It is all well within your grasp.” (Brian F martin)

 When I was a teenager about 13 my mother married a man that about a month into the marriage starting beating her. I would awake in the middle of the night hearing her cries and watch him knock her plate out of her hands. She finally divorced him when my sister told her that if she didn’t she would never visit again. She did divorce him but she paid for his apartment and supported him until her death and when she was on her death bed this man cussed her because none of the life insurance was being left to him. So yes I did feel, resentful, sad, alone, angry, hopeless, worthless, fearful, self-conscious, and unloved. Then I married right into the cycle my other started but I unlike her was able to get out. 

 Did you or someone you care about grow up living with domestic violence? INVINCIBLE seeks to build awareness and understanding of #CDV (childhood domestic violence). Awareness is currently less than 10%. Pre-order your copy & receive 25% off This is a great book

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About tabethabeautyreviews

About me well I have recently been pondering what I have on my page is being educated about me who I am. My friends are saying here comes the weird Psychology degree stuff. Well some know my past and some don’t, I have always heard don’t put your mistakes (trash out) for all to see. I have decided if its not out for all to see then how is the younger generation going to learn from the older generations mistakes. First I started running away at 14 to get out of a bad home life was this the smartest thing I have ever done, no what did I learn a many lessons in life , what jobs I wanted and did not want is the biggest one for sure to the guy at the paper tiger lounge in Denver, I am so sorry that I risked your business as a Dum teenage kid. To Kay and Myron Nichols from Aurora thanks for taking in a teenager and getting her out of employment that she had no business in. Thanks Kay for trying to teach that kid that she wasn’t ready in life to be a wife and mother and thanks Myron for eating that no bake jello pie that I messed up so bad on. Second to you young bloggers that read my blog to help me out, I was a teenage high school drop out that got pregnant at 16 to get out of a bad home and ended up jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Remember this no matter what mistakes you have made its never to late to start over. I divorced at age 18 and just kept jumping from one bad marriage to another. It took me till my twenties to get that high school diploma, then I walked into Carl Albert state college and enrolled and with 4 kids and a job I now have an associates from Carl Albert state college in sociology/Psychology and a bachelors in psychology with an emphasis in mental health and I have a master’s of science in psychology from the University of Phoenix. I maintained above at least a 3.27 at all the colleges while raising 4 kids and holding a job down. So it is never too late to change your life. The relationship Mistakes first to the professor at NSU that made it a point to tell me that I didn’t have a big red sign on my back that says if you’re a woman beater come my way that it was because I didn’t stay single long enough that I just kept marrying the same man he just had a different face. Thank you I have remained single now and haven’t dated for 5 years and I know see that you are correct. To Craig the guy that came around since I was 14 until I was 30 I finally grew up to bad that you got tired of waiting I am glad that you finally have your soul mate. Now at 45 am looking at changing my career direction scary but all will work out. Second no friends and co-workers I haven’t went crazy from the stress. I just decided that dealing with the fact that I am getting older and showing it is ok. I still intend to get old gracefully and become that girly, girl. This is about me in all my trash being out there

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